Over the past few days I had the blessing of spending some time out of town with my in-laws. I know this sentence could easily be perceived with a thick layer of sarcasm; however, I couldn’t be more genuine, as they have allowed Hilary and I some much needed respite from this epic year of birth. Yesterday, I had the gift of a rare hour to sit down without the pull of immediate responsibilities. It was the perfect opportunity to take some time to reflect on the previous year and set some goals for 2019.
Reflection is a tricky task at times, because it is very easy to let your emotions mask the benefit of the lessons presented. It is a natural human instinct to avoid the experiences that cause us pain and loss. This may help with the cognitive sting in the short term; however, this is a dangerous habit as it does not allow us the time necessary to learn from our past mistakes. When reflecting, I try my hardest to keep emotions out of past events and focus on my own specific behaviors and the consequences they produce. This exercise sets the stage nicely for generating personal and objective goals for the next year.
One tool that I was gifted a year ago was a small planner. This specific planner (The Passion Planner) does a nice job of providing you prompts to set goals for your professional and personal life. By segmenting these areas during the goal planning process, you can ensure that important areas of your life are not neglected. If you have three or four areas in your life that are vital to your happiness, you can add those into the mix as well (just be aware that with every area you add, you will naturally take away from the others so choose wisely). With the increasing demands of my family, professional career and now business owner; this tool was a lifesaver for me.
The next useful prompt the planner gave was to break your goals down temporally starting with lifetime goals and then moving to - 3-year, 1-year, 3-months, 1-month. This breakdown will help you hone in on choosing the goals that are both relevant and timely. It doesn’t matter if you start from lifetime and work down or if you start monthly and work out, as both approaches provide the necessary perspective. The next instructions are to then focus on goals that are within the next month. This micro goal setting perspective will allow you to more easily translate into weekly and daily action steps. Goals are accomplished by habits, and habits are built by a combination of daily behaviors. Win each day and you will win the month. Put a few monthly wins together will make that yearly goal something within reach.
We wish you the happiest of new years and we are here to help you reach all of your goals in 2019!
Pick goals based on recent and objective behaviors
Increase the positive
Decrease the negative
Break goals up into life categories
Family, professional, hobby, etc.
Break goals up into temporal categories
Lifetime, 3-year, 1-year, 3-mo, 1-mo, weekly, and daily
Focus short term goals and build that momentum
Win the day→ Win the week→ Win the month→ etc.